I am Thalihanna

Hello. My name is Thalihanna and I’m Asian-Spanish descent. I am a shy girl.I don’t know why I’m shy.I always tell myself to just get over it,but it’s something I will probably struggle w/ for the rest of my life. I’ve learned to accept this as part of my personality,but sometimes it just makes my life difficult. I have a naturally quiet voice so when I do speak,people talk right over me. Sometimes it’s easier for me not to say anything at all.I get all sweaty or shivery every time I have to speak in public. And I plan out what I'm going to say in every situation in order to force myself to talk,but I end up not saying anything or messing up what I planned to say.

ADVANTAGES
The way I’ve been talking about shyness,it seems like a disease,but there are plenty of advantages to being shy:
* I can come across as quiet and mysterious,which is sexy.Besides,guys don’t like girls who talk too much.It’s like Ursula sings in “The Little Mermaid,” “The men up there don’t like a lot of blabber.They think a girl who gossips is a bore.”



MISCONCEPTIONS
Everybody makes judgments about me based on my shyness,&usually they are wrong.I can’t tell you how many times somebody has told me,”You are so cool,but I used to think you were weird.”Here are some common misconceptions that every shy girl knows are complete bogus:
* You’re quiet because you’re a snob or a bitch.This is one of the most common misconceptions.It’s hard for extroverts to understand shyness.The loud girls would never understand that I didn’t talk because I was so shy that sometimes it made me sick to my stomach to talk to others.They would assume that I didn’t talk because I thought I was too good for them.
* You don’t talk because you have nothing interesting to say.I feel like there is so much in my brain I just want to say.Maybe one day,I’ll just explode and say everything I’m thinking.I can’t really explain it,but I feel like there is this physical barrier between my brain and my mouth.I am constantly in a battle w/myself.By the time I win,the moment has passed and whatever I was going to say is no longer relevant.
* Shy girls aren’t funny. People thinK I have no sense of humor. Because I’m so quiet,it’s hard for others to get a handle on my personality. If others would make a joke,they would make it clear to me that they were kidding so I wouldn’t get offended,but they didn’t realize I never took offense. When I made sarcastic comments(which was often),nobody realized I was joking and they didn’t know how to react.



As the Beatles song goes,”It’s getting better all the time(it can’t get no worse).”Although I will never stop being shy,it’s becoming less of a problem…but it fluctuates. There are times when my shyness is especially bad. When I’m depressed I tend to retreat into my room and stop talking to people–that’s the”It can’t get no worse part,”but for the most part, “It’s getting better all the time.”
I will never completely overcome my shyness and I’m OK with that.